(a therapist's favorite tool)
This can be applied to (1) behavior (2) relationships and (3) work challenges.
The steps must be done in this order to create a sustainable solution:
| (1) Awareness | (2) Acceptance |
|---|---|
| Become aware of the problem. |
Then become aware of its consequences.
Without understanding what it is and how it impacts you, you won’t have the motivation to change it. | Acceptance requires humility and self-compassion.
As Carl Rogers says, "The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change."
Most skip this step; staying in denial and living out the same problems. |
Before moving on to step 3, it's important to create emotional distance.
Two ways to do this:
This half-step is critical to ensure our next move comes from a grounded place.
Interventions are internal tools.
The goal is regulation of your emotions and most importantly, the body.